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Be present
We experience intimacy in the present moment, and being present as much as possible deepens your connection.
Being mindful, when the mind wanders, bring it back.
 
 Deep Conversations & Communication

• Challenging your partner/friend to grow intellectually, emotionally & spiritually; and they should be doing the same. 
• Discussing the things that you’re passionate about can help you discover things you didn’t know you had in common with others.

• Psychologist Arthur Aron's 36 questions are a great way to get to know someone
• Writing letters (especially important for LDR)
• Phone calls
• Skype/video chat
• Text & MMS Send a text message that lets someone know you’re thinking about them. I love these! <3
• Say what you mean- let the other/s experience the real you.
• Let your guard down/be vulnerable- explore and share emotions
• Talk about and respect each other’s boundaries
• Talk in the dark
• Telling partner/friend what I love about them/ why I’m proud of them

 
 Touch (non-sexual) (with consent, of course)
We’ve become such a touch deprived world. I’m not advocating inappropriate touching, what I am advocating is appropriate touch with consent. This requires communication. When we touch we have the hormone Oxytocin release which makes us feel happy and loved. Who doesn’t want to feel loved?

• Holding hands
• Kiss on the forehead
• Hugging/ cuddling
• Hand on cheek. Hold their face with your two hands, or place a plam on one of their cheeks while speaking to them.
• Massaging
• Touching/stroking/brushing their hair
• Butterfly kisses
• Sit on their lap
• Head on lap
• Touching noses
• Laying your head on their shoulder
• Tracing designs on arms, legs, backs.
• Moving your head to their chest and listening to their heartbeat
• Wandering hands (does not need to be sexual)
• Give a love pat when you walk by
• Close eyes and memorize each other’s faces with your fingers.

 
 Get Spiritual
Meditate together. Don’t know how? Learn together!
The goal of spirituality is your connection to divinity/ Universal Energy or Consciousness/ your own personal understanding of GOD. However, it can be a great way to bond with someone and grow closer to share your own perspectives & beliefs.

 Eye gaze
Eye contact/gazing. It might feel a little weird or confronting at first, but it can really help with intimacy. Talk about the experience afterwards.
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 More ways to increase intimacy

• Create a time where you can just be still together
• Lay under the stars & just be (My favourite!)
• Dance together
• Take a walk or stroll
• Watch tv/movies together
• Cook together/ feeding each other/ sharing food
• Play and be silly together— eg. Nerf gun war, playful wrestling, pillow fight
• Read books together
• Sky watch
• Learn their favourite food and make it
• Take photos together (Snapchat fun)
• Drawing/writing on one another
• Just sleeping together/sleepovers
• Going on trips together
• Experience new things together
• Play games together
• Make a playlist together
• Share your favourite activities with each other

 
So how did you resonate with those? How do you define your relationship with others? Are there specific boundaries and categories? Or are you a freestyler, like me, who wants more out of life by pushing the limits enforced upon us? By strengthening our bonds with others we become stronger, healthier, not just as an individual, but also our community. Let’s invite those who are disassociated back into our community, teach, share & learn with them. Watch how they can bloom, and so can you. You know, we really can change the world.